Rehearsal for the Marriage to come
Rehearsal for the Marriage to come
This week Penny and I have celebrated our fortieth wedding anniversary and what a beautiful time it has been. Forty years of a beautiful relationship with a lady the Lord put in my path, at a time when I was lost and going from one relationship to another. And then I met Penny and the world changed for me. I went from a single dad to be married in five short months. Then three years later the Lord caught up with us both and we started a new life together, not one of the world, but one of coming to know the Kingdom of God. [1 Corinthians 4:20]
The glory of His life entered into our marriage and we were born again in to a different world from the one we had known. [John 3:3] Then we started to read the word of God and saw what God thought of marriage, the very institution of human relationships. There will be one man and one woman and they shall leave their parents and become one. [Genesis 2:24] This statement alone tells us marriage is between two people one male one female, such a natural arrangement. Why, because this arrangement produces life, life that produces the next generation [Genesis 9:7] a generation that can carry on the word of God in all its fullness. Without them where does the word of God go? Marriage before the Lord is a Holy covenant [Hebrews 13:4] as the Lord spoke it into being and it is a picture of what is to come. [Revelation 19:9] And this is why marriage so much under attack today as it speaks of what is to come. All things the Lord God spoke into being has a purpose in His Holy plan for mankind. [Isaiah 46:9-10]
God spoke the Ten Commandments to Moses and then wrote them in stone. [Deuteronomy 9:10] If we applied these commandments to society I am positive the world would be a different place from how it is today. If we applied the Ten Commandments to our marriages one can only imagine what they would be like before God. Love the Lord thy God, have no other God besides me, keep my name Holy and keep the seventh day holy before the Lord. [Exodus 20:1-11] To me these are the commands that set us apart from the world in a marriage.
If God came first we would seek His Word for His direction in all things instead of charging blindly into the unknown. If our relationship with our spouse came before material things then we would not be creating gods that would distract us from Gods plan in all marriages and that it is to love as He loves. Seventh day rest, surely this command of God applies to all things including taking a day off from our busy lives to spend time not only with God but also with our spouse and any family that comes along. We all need time out to bond as we worry too much about tomorrow when the Lord said tomorrow will take care of itself. [Matthew 6:34]
Then we get into the part of the Ten Commandments that talks about loving our neighbours and I am absolutely sure this also means our spouse. And the only true way to do this is to look through the eyes of Yeshua at all times and in all situations. Psalm 139:1-12 tells us that God knows our coming in and our going out, He knows our thoughts and our ways. God put these commandments in place for all people, for all time and for all situations including marriages.
You shall not lie; for us to have a great marriage we should never lie to our spouse as one lie leads to another. Honour our parents; Our parents raised us and taught us the difference between right and wrong so we must honour them in whatever we do. Do not steal; don’t take what is not ours, theft comes in many forms, it does mean taking an item but it can also mean taking credit for what we did not do. Relationships can be destroyed by doing just that, where one spouse builds themselves up at the expense of the other when marriage is suppose to be a partnership, and two shall become one!
Do not speak ill of anyone; I am the sure the Lord is unhappy when He hears people running their spouse down to their friends and we have all heard it. To talk in such a way never helps a situation, as God is not in it.
You shall not murder; then the words of Yeshua, if you are angry then it is the same as murder! [Matthew 5:21-22] In today's society we hear of so much violence in the house when Yeshua warns us clearly what the result will be within this anger. Do not commit adultery; And even looking lustfully at another person is the same as adultery [Matthew 5:28-29] then who can be saved as we have all sinned and fallen short of the glory of God [Romans 3:23] at some times in our lives? We ask how can we possibly uphold the standards for marriage that the Lord has put in place from the beginning of time? People say you have to work at it, I would suggest relax and let God work at it, through His love and actions.
Our heavenly Father knew before time that we would need help in all things so He came to earth and not only explained what was required but also demonstrated by His words and actions. ‘Love as I have loved you,’ [John 13:34] God is love, [1 John 4:16] God loves always, [Psalm 52:1] Yeshua died and took the sins of the world upon Himself the alternate act of love. [2 Corinthians 5:21] Yes Yeshua looked at us as God looks not on outward appearance but at the heart. [1 Samuel 16:7] When we look at our spouse do we look at the outward appearance with human eyes or the heart through the eyes of our Lord? It is with His eyes we must look at our spouse as the years pass as the outward appearance changes, sickness may come or an injury may prevent us being the people we once were. But the eyes of Yeshua never change; He looks past our imperfections so if we take on the mind of Yeshua then surely we should do the same as He sees. [1 Corinthians 2:16]
If we can’t do this with the one we fell in love with and married, how are we ever going to do it with every person we meet? The eyes of Yeshua are perfect and see us as children of God, [John 1:12] ones who have been made in the image of God. [Genesis 1:27] It is with these eyes we must look at all people especially the one we married, for better or worse, in sickness and in health, is a cry from the heart and spoken into the future. It is with the eyes of Yeshua that we are soon looking at that future and though things may change He never changes. [Hebrews 13:8] He is there always for all people who call on His name, to walk with us and talk with us through our journey of life. [1 John 2:1]
God created male and female for a purpose, He brought them together as one for a purpose and then gave the commandments to keep us on tract within that purpose. The purpose is to love as God loves and to behave in all situations, as He would expect us to, within the bounds of that love. The love shown on the Cross-when Yeshua cried; “Forgive them Father for they know not what they do” [Luke 23:34] and then died for the sins of the world. [John 3:16] Therefore if we look through His eyes with His love we can see clearly what God wants within the marriage contract He created, and that is “to love one another as I have loved you,” said the Lord.
“Little children, I am with you a little while longer. You will seek Me; and as I said to the people, now I also say to you, ‘Where I am going, you cannot come.’ “A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another, even as I have loved you, that you also love one another. “By this all men will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.” John 13:33-35